"Aww she/he will do anything for anyone" Sound familiar?

Do You Also Struggle with Boundaries?

• Do you say yes when you mean no?

• Do you feel drained after being around certain people?

• Do you feel guilty for putting yourself first?

• Are you a people-pleaser?

• Do you feel like you exist just to make everyone else's life easier?

• Do you feel let down and lonely when there is no one to support you?

  
  

Why Do You Feel Like This?

Boundaries are your personal limits. They are the invisible lines that protect your time, energy, body, and emotions. Without them, you risk burning out or being walked over by others.

When you create good boundaries for yourself, you feel safe, respected, and in control. It’s essential to ensure that your boundaries align with the adult you are choosing to be, rather than the outdated version from your childhood.

People can’t read your mind. If you don’t set or reset your boundaries, others will assume everything is fine until you eventually explode. This cycle leaves you feeling low, lonely, anxious, and sad, which can be exhausting.

The Importance of Setting Boundaries

Setting boundaries is not just about saying no; it's about protecting your well-being. When you establish clear limits, you create a healthier environment for yourself. This allows you to thrive rather than merely survive.

Remember: You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your limits.

The “3-Level Boundary Check”

To help you assess your boundaries, consider the following questions:

1. Physical: Do I feel safe and comfortable here?

2. Emotional: Am I allowed to feel how I feel?

3. Time/Energy: Am I giving more than is necessary?

   
   

Practice Script for Setting Boundaries

When you need to assert your boundaries, try using these phrases:

"It's not convenient for me."

"That doesn’t work for me."

or simply "NAAA" (my personal favourite, as it communicates that you are aware of boundary pushers!)

Reflection:

Take a moment to reflect on your boundaries:

• When was the last time I ignored my own boundaries? What happened?

• What’s one boundary I want to start setting this week?

• Get a notebook and write things down. Doodling can be helpful; sometimes, it’s easier to see where the doodles take you.

  
  

Exploring Further

If you would like to explore this subject further, consider hypnotherapy. It can help you access the deeper parts of your mind where valuable insights are hidden.

Feel free to get in touch for a free chat by phone to see how I can help. You can reach me at Tel 07790162067—text me for a time that suits you. Remember, it’s all about you for a change.

Conclusion

Setting boundaries is a vital aspect of emotional and mental well-being. By understanding your limits and communicating them effectively, you can create a more fulfilling life. Remember, it’s okay to put yourself first. You deserve it.